152. Transformational Thoughts

by | Jun 15, 2023

Here’s the truth: If you don’t think on purpose, you won’t create anything on purpose either. In this week’s podcast, I am sharing 5 transformational thoughts that I believe (now!) and have trained myself to think on purpose. These thoughts have helped me reach goals I didn’t even think were possible for me.

When I think these things they put me in a totally different state of being. They’ve helped me to square my shoulders toward my goal and get to work even on days when I didn’t want to or thought I was cut out to make a difference.

This is how we do it! You can play around and adopt these thoughts for yourself or come up with your own. Either way, this episode is designed to help you step into your own power thoughts to create an impact!

Let’s go! xo, Janeen

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TRANSCRIPT:

[00:00:00] Janeen: Well, hey there, are you guys. Welcome back to another episode of the podcast. I am Janeen Alley, you are listening to Becoming the CEO of Your Life today, and we are talking about power thoughts today or thoughts that have

[00:00:14] changed me and changed the trajectory of my life. Because the truth is, is when you are planning your life from your highest self, which is what we wanna do when we’re becoming the CEOs of our life, right?

[00:00:25] Your intention is to make the world a better place. I want to help you to turn your ideas into something more tangible today. Something like a plan or an action or a movement, or developing better habits or systems in your life, or maybe even creating a business or an organization, but whatever result that you want in your life, the mission that you feel driven to fulfill in your life, all starts with thoughts. If you think about it, anything that has ever been created was an idea or a thought first. So how do you [00:01:00] harness the ideas that you have to make a difference, to make an impact in the world? Well, the way that we do that is we have to think on purpose. If you don’t think on purpose, you don’t create anything on purpose either.

[00:01:14] You have to practice believing new things that generate an emotion, that’s going to create an action that’s gonna help you to get a result that you like, that you’re really excited about. And these little results over time start to add up to big results, right? This is not something that happens overnight.

[00:01:34] There is power in these seemingly small and insignificant thoughts and the way that they kind of have this compound effect over time. Your subconscious mind is not insignificant for sure. It’s powerful, and yet these thoughts seem harmless. They, they seem like they’re, they’re not big enough to make an impact, either for good or for not good.

[00:01:59] For [00:02:00] the, the. Staying stuck and all those thoughts that generate those kinds of results. That’s not what we want. But either way, they seem like they’re not that big of a deal. But you can see over time they are. So we want to intentionally choose thoughts that over time have a very powerful effect on our lives and on the world around us.

[00:02:19] so I’m gonna be sharing several of mine that I have thought and have become a part of me, and they’re things that I truly honestly, a hundred percent believe. So this first one is my needs are a hundred percent taken care of. When I think this thought, I feel really relaxed and I feel really abundant when I think this thought, my needs are a hundred percent taken care of.

[00:02:41] I have more focus, I have more fun, and I feel more joy in my life. Just like you, I don’t have a problem not doing things right. I don’t think that is your problem. We don’t spend a lot of time during the day sitting on the couch, watching Netflix eating BonBons, that’s not what we’re doing. I come [00:03:00] from this place of overdoing and over hustling and overcommitting to a point where it almost created a panic in my body.

[00:03:11] And thing is, is this was not helpful when I first started my business. Right? When I first started my business. I had a lot of these thoughts that sounded like this has to work. I have to get this done. When I slowed myself down and I started applying some of the coaching skills that I, of course still use in my life, I teach my clients how to do these things.

[00:03:31] I stopped and I’m like, but why? Why do I have to do these things? Why do we have to? Why does it have to work? The way that I was talking to myself when I was thinking this way, I put so much pressure on myself to reach a goal for the day or for the week or for the month or whatever, and I forgot to enjoy myself along the way.

[00:03:50] I was not thinking to myself, I’m gonna start this business and it’s gonna be so much fun. That’s not what I was thinking. I took that very, very, [00:04:00] very seriously to the point where it zapped a lot of the fun out of what it was I was doing, because I was kind of going into this panic mode.

[00:04:06] I was coming at my goal from this place of scarcity. I wasn’t enough without the achievement as if the accomplishment or the achievement would make me enough. This is oftentimes what it is that we think, right? It doesn’t work like that. We can see it doesn’t work like that with other people, right? If our kids don’t reach a goal, doesn’t mean that they’re not enough, right?

[00:04:25] But we kind of have this double standard where it’s okay for them not to reach the goal, but it’s not okay for us. Right? But I don’t have to. I don’t have to do anything. Right? Just like you don’t have to do anything. We get to, we get to do a lot of stuff. It’s truly a privilege of my life to create things and to work on my business.

[00:04:44] So I had to drop this thought or this conversation in my head that I have to get stuff done. I have to do this work. It has to work this time, because that whole conversation just zapped the fun right out of the process. So [00:05:00] instead, I wanted to soften into the experience of what it is that I was creating and the thought that I adopted.

[00:05:05] Instead, anytime my brain would short circuit to, I have to get this done, I intentionally rerouted it to, and my needs are taken care of. Okay? I could turn on the ads and I don’t get a sale. It’s just a bunch of data that I paid for about what’s not gonna work, and that is so useful. So I developed this trust that things were working for me and that they will work in the way that I hope. My needs will continue to be provided for Resources flow to me.

[00:05:39] They flow away from me to make things happen. And this includes, of course, a lot of learning opportunities from failures, right? And so if I have this idea in my mind that my needs are taken care of, I just soften into that whole experience and it makes my life so much more enjoyable, right? I see it as some really [00:06:00] fun challenges and obstacles to overcome in the process of making my dreams come true.

[00:06:04] Totally different energy. Okay. The next thought that I wanted to adopt and I kept practicing over and over again is I’m capable of figuring this out. Okay, so when I’m thinking this thought, I’m capable of figuring this out. I feel empowered.

[00:06:18] I feel really determined. I feel really capable, of course, totally capable of figuring this out. That’s how I feel. So I’m a coach. I love to coach. I love to work with women who wanna change the world. Particularly women who don’t feel like they currently have the time or even the resources. They don’t feel like they’re cut out to do anything big. They have no idea where to start. I can talk to these women all day long. It is my favorite thing about making an impact. These are the things that I love.

[00:06:47] And like I said, I’m natural in this environment here as a coach, but there are some things that I’m not super good at and I have had to learn along the way a lot of tech [00:07:00] things, a lot of business things in building a business, of course, that I wasn’t very good at. I had no idea how to edit podcasts or edit videos or do graphic design or build a website or build an app even, or build a business, do any kind of marketing things or funnels or

[00:07:16] posting on social media or even being confident on video. That was something that would have terrified me in the beginning, but now I do it all the time. It’s just like, all right, turn on the video. Let’s go. This is what we do. But I was not good at any of this stuff when I started. At this point in the game, I have been in the trenches on just about all of it, and I am fortunate enough to hire some of these things out, but I know how to do it. That’s the thing. I knew how to do it first, and so I knew what it was that I wanted to hire after I figured it out. But I didn’t wanna figure this out.

[00:07:49] I didn’t wanna do it. I spent a lot of time being really frustrated and resisting and feeling like there had to be a better way, there had to be an easier way to do this. [00:08:00] So lemme just tell you, just like raising kids, there are some fun things about having a business or having a family, right? But there are some really, really hard things.

[00:08:08] There’s no way around these kinds of experiences as parents, right? We just gotta do it. It’s the same with building a business. Building a business either requires your time or it requires your money. But I didn’t have a lot of money to put into my business when I started, but I did put in the time and I spent a lot of time doing things that I didn’t want to do and even things that I didn’t even want to learn how to do.

[00:08:34] Like I said, I kept telling myself, there’s gotta be an easier way around this. I hate this. I’m not good at this. None of those thoughts were serving me . And so my intentional thought, the thing that really got me to square my shoulders towards my computer, and it’s like, Janeen, you’ve got to figure this out.

[00:08:48] You are capable of figuring this out. That was the thought that got me to turn around and be like, okay, I guess I’m learning how to do this. I guess I am, cuz here we go. [00:09:00] My dream was more important to me than that stubborn conversation. I hate doing this. I’m not good at this. Okay. All right. The third thought that ha s transformed my life,

[00:09:12] that I would consider, one of my power thoughts is I have plenty of time to get things done that matter to me. Because the truth is I don’t do overwhelm. I’ve mentioned this before on the podcast. I seriously don’t do overwhelm anymore. I don’t get overwhelmed. It’s one of those emotions that does not serve me in any way, shape, or form.

[00:09:31] Just like worry doesn’t, it’s not a useful emotion. So anytime I’m noticing I’m feeling that way, I’m like, I have plenty of time to get things done that matter. Let’s figure this out. Okay. This is a thought that has really helped me when I’m feeling kind of this weight or this overwhelm. When we’re overwhelmed, we are thinking there’s not enough time.

[00:09:50] That’s why we’re overwhelmed is I have so much to do and not enough time to get it done. We’re overwhelmed, right? But when I’m telling myself I have plenty of time to get [00:10:00] things done that matter, I feel calm, I feel strategic, and I feel abundant with my time. I’m really mindful that I don’t have time to do everything, but I have the time to do things that matter, and there is this element of intention with this thought.

[00:10:17] I need to decide what I’m going to do and be wise with the time that I have, but I have plenty of time. That is really where this shifts my focus and my energy. Now, the interesting thing about time is time is a human construct. This is something that we have created: days of the week, the calendar year, hours and minutes,

[00:10:37] all of that is something that we have created to help us to live in this world, and it’s something that we kind of all buy into. It’s kinda like money. We all buy into this idea of money. We all buy into this idea of time. All things that humans have created, right? Time, as well as money, is something that I think is foreign [00:11:00] to the eternal nature of our being, like who we are at the center of ourselves. And I think it’s one of the reasons why we have to have clocks all over the place is to remind us what time it is.

[00:11:11] Right. It’s really unnatural for us. Deadlines can be really tricky for us, right? Because that is also something that has A time amount for us to get it done. And I think most people do deadlines wrong. In fact, I would say 98%, maybe 99 % of people don’t do deadlines correctly. And I can say this because I’ve done deadlines wrong most of my life up until the last couple of years where I became a productivity coach and I really wanted to

[00:11:39] to think about what it was that I was thinking about around all aspects of my time and my calendar and all of it. So I work for myself, right? I create my own deadlines for stuff, which I’m sure a lot of you do too. And I know that if you’re working for someone else, they have deadlines for you, but on top of that, you probably also have your own deadlines for yourself.

[00:11:59] Now, as a [00:12:00] business owner, I have decided that there are no emergencies in my business. None. Deadlines are not emergencies. but we function oftentimes like they are. We’re either. Really stressed out about a self-imposed deadline because of the way that we’re thinking about it. Or another option for you when it comes to deadlines is you can think that it’s a fun challenge.

[00:12:24] And this is the same thing with goals, right? If you have a race day and that deadline is looming, race day is looming, and you’re just like, oh my gosh, I’ve gotta get in shape or it’s gonna be a total junk show. I mean, that is going to create a lot of stress for you. But I wanna, I just wanna offer to you that either option is available to you, you’re gonna be stressed out about your deadlines, or you can think of them as more of a fun challenge.

[00:12:47] The way that I look at time, I think is really different from the way that other people look at time. Our time is broken down into daytime and nighttime, right? We separate daytime and nighttime with our sleep. Usually a [00:13:00] really, really long nap, right? But my reality is I have nothing but time. In my mind, time doesn’t stop because I have to go to sleep or because I have to eat right?

[00:13:12] I have an abundance of time to get things done that I’d like to do. And you might be thinking, but we only have 168 hours in a week, or we only have 24 hours in a day. I don’t think about time like that. I don’t think about my time from a place of scarcity, because the truth is is the next week, the following week, you also have 168 hours of time.

[00:13:35] It’s actually a lot of time and time continues to march on. There’s no rush when it comes to time, and I don’t mean that I don’t work hard and I’m really lackadaisical about my schedule. I’m not, but I am focused and I’m calm. I work hard. I’m very intentional with my time. I’m not stressed. I’m not frazzled.

[00:13:53] I’m not all over the place. I literally have plenty of time to get things done that matter. I have plenty of time to spend [00:14:00] with the people that I love. I have plenty of time to do my work on the earth. That’s the way that I think about it, and this, this idea has completely transformed me and my life and the way that I do my business.

[00:14:13] Okay. The next thought that I have is I’d rather be in the arena. That’s the thought. I’d rather be in the arena. And when I think that I’m feeling really patient and I’m feeling determination and perseverance with that thought. Now I have to give you a little bit of backstory with this. This one comes from Brene Brown, and she’s quoting Teddy Roosevelt, so I’m kind of quoting both of them at the same time. But this is from her book Daring Greatly. I’m gonna tell you the quote in just a second, but let me just give you a little bit of context here.

[00:14:43] We all get frustrated when things don’t work, and I mentioned this last week on the podcast as well. I used to think that I misinterpreted the impression or the inspiration that I received to start my business and to become a coach because when. I felt like things weren’t working. I would [00:15:00] get so frustrated.

[00:15:00] I’m like, this is not working. I’m clearly not doing what I’m supposed to be doing. As if the only reason to do something was to get a specific outcome. And again, I talked about this last week. If you wanna go and listen to more of that, go back and listen to last week’s episode. But when we’re in this head space, we’re often thinking, well, maybe you should just go and do something else.

[00:15:21] Maybe you’re not cut out for this. Go work for someone else. Why are you doing this? If you don’t enjoy yourself right now, why are you doing this? And over time, I’ve learned to just slow myself down and answer that question. Yeah, why are you doing this? It’s because I love it.

[00:15:38] I love my clients. I love the challenge. I love the work that I do. I think it’s so fun. It keeps me doing something where I find a lot of meaning and a lot of value in my life. And I course, love the growth opportunities. And I have loved all of this even when I wasn’t paying myself.

[00:15:58] That is when you know you’re [00:16:00] onto something really special is when you could work for the rest of your life and, and love the time that you spend working, and I have felt really blessed to have that opportunity.

[00:16:11] So let me just read you this quote, this, like I said, Is quoted originally from Teddy Roosevelt, and I found it through Brene Brown’s book. He said, "it is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming.

[00:16:43] But who does actually strive to do the deeds. Who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions. Who spends himself in a worthy cause. Who at the best knows the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his [00:17:00] place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory, nor defeat.

[00:17:06] So I’d rather be in the arena. I’d rather be giving it my all to go for a goal than to feel like I was giving up on myself, just because I just think it’s such a a great way to live life. It’s, you have so much more fun doing it, and I think for all entrepreneurs or anybody who has created success, there are no overnight success.

[00:17:29] I think we all experience more defeat than triumph, and I remind myself that on the days where I’ve been knocked down and it feels like I’m just getting beat, you know, that’s the, that’s the truth of it. I’d rather just be in the arena in that experience. And this is, like I said, this is how I wanna live my life.

[00:17:45] Not because I’m crazy, sometimes I have questioned that, but because even in the defeats, there are so many nuggets of wisdom and opportunities to know myself better and what it is I’m truly made of. And that for me is such a win. I feel like there [00:18:00] isn’t any other way to get that information. There isn’t a shortcut. There’s not a hack to apply. There’s not a magic pill in order to get those nuggets of wisdom. The only way to do it is to kind of walk through that refiner’s fire. So, like I said, I’d rather be in the arena. It brings up a lot of determination and perseverance when I think that way. Okay, the, the last one is, this is the very last thought that I’m gonna share with you today.

[00:18:27] And this one is, it’s okay to just sit with this. Just breathe. Some emotions put you into that fight, fight, or freeze head space. where your sympathetic nervous system is turned on. And so when I notice that I want to go there because I’ve experiencing some kind of emotion, like anxiety or panic or frustration or disappointment or even grief or defeat, I often wanna run away.

[00:18:49] And that usually means that I want to buffer with something. I’m gonna do something that’s gonna distract me from feeling. Sometimes it’s not even something really intense, it’s just something like [00:19:00] bored or unmotivated or uninspired or just kind of that blah feeling. I just don’t wanna do anything. just wanna gravitate towards the couch. Right. And so, like I said, we often try to fix these emotions by doing things that we don’t have scheduled on our calendar. Right, like watching Netflix or hopping on social media for longer than we’d like to. And so this thought, it’s okay to sit with this. Just breathe. Is my invitation to be like, oh yeah, that’s right.

[00:19:27] You felt this before. You’re not losing steam on this project just because you’re not feeling it today or just because you are thinking about this other thing. Just the day. Let’s get some writing done. Let’s get to work even as you’re feeling this. It’s not a resisting, it’s an allowing, and it’s also an intentional way that I show up in my life and I still get things done.

[00:19:51] Now, that’s not to say like in moments of grief, if we have something going on at a family level or something where I need to [00:20:00] be present with my kids and stop what it is that I’m doing, and definitely do that and have done that, but this idea of, okay, we’ve felt this before. It’s okay to just sit with.

[00:20:09] This helps me to stay really present with myself and very intentional. It kind of brings me back to myself. We’re just breathing here. This is all we’re doing. Emotions don’t need to be fixed. It doesn’t mean that you have to do anything about what’s going on. It doesn’t mean that you have to stop working hard.

[00:20:27] It doesn’t mean that you have to keep going either. It’s okay to just sit with this for a moment and it takes me out of that reaction to the emotion, kind of that animalistic reactive place that we all get to when we’re in that fight, flight, or freeze mode to more of an intentional space.

[00:20:45] Okay, so I just shared some thoughts that have changed me, some thoughts that I have picked intentionally to think on purpose and I want you to be thinking to yourself after this episode, what are some of the things that you wanna think or [00:21:00] belief on purpose?

[00:21:00] Now, some of the thoughts that I have shared with you might resonate and some of them might not at all, and that’s totally fine cuz we’re all individuals, right? And it’s just like, you know, we’re not super comfortable in all the clothes. It’s just the same thing with thoughts. So I want you thinking about, okay, what are some thoughts that are gonna serve me better to help me to create something beautiful in my life, to help me to become the CEO of my life, or to live a life that really lights me up and is aligned with who I am and what I am here to do.

[00:21:29] Okay, so I want you thinking about that. Also, if you are interested, I have a mastermind that is starting in October. I’m super excited about it. It is all about becoming the c e o of your life and between now and then, if you sign it between now and then, we are gonna work together one-on-one. Until we get started with the Mastermind, all of those one-on-one sessions, of course, are custom curated.

[00:21:53] I give you what it is that you need, and we are also going to have a V I P day together before the event starts. Just you and [00:22:00] me. It’s gonna be so much fun. We’re gonna spend the time mapping out what it is that you wanna do. Of course, giving yourself permission to change because I was mentioned before in the last six months, I have pivoted so fast and so often it kinda makes my head spin, like thinking about it, but I’m here for it.

[00:22:15] And that is what I am here to help you do as well. It’s gonna be amazing. And I just wanna ask you, are you coming? I’d love for you to come, so if you are interested, please go ahead and apply. So that sounds amazing to you go to janeenalley.com/breakthrough. The link is going to be inside of the show notes. All you need to do is click it and you will get over to take a super fast survey and book a call with me. I’m super excited to talk to you about that. Okay, so that is it. That’s all I have for you.

[00:22:43] If you are watching this video on YouTube or if you are listening on the podcast, please subscribe. It really does make a difference in spreading the word about all the things that we talk about here on the show. All right, you guys have a beautiful rest of your week. We’ll talk to you guys soon. See ya.

[00:22:58] Bye.

 

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